Following in from yesterday’s email about lessons I learned as Area Manager, comes one of the most valuable lessons you can learn.
In life we all want to ‘have’ certain things.
A nice body, big house, more money, funky car, holidays, etc.
Over time we learn there are certain things we need to ‘do’ to get these things.
Exercise, eat well, work hard, save money, cut outgoings, etc.
And this approach gets us so far.
But to truly successful at gaining anything, what we need to learn is how to ‘be’ that person.
When we change, at least in some ways, the person we are, the ‘do’s’ follow automatically and the ‘haves’ come with time.
Matt often uses the term ‘copying success’.
Looking at people who have achieved what you want to achieve.
Studying the way they do things, not just the ‘what’ they do.
And changing some aspects of ‘who you are’ to be more in line with that.
So, if you want to lose weight, tone up, etc without it being that constant hard work, then you can study people who’ve done / do that.
The ‘what’ they do, everyone pretty much knows.
But we can look at their beliefs, how they see the world, the words they use and so on.
And change at least some parts of who we are in that respect.
Chances are they are the sort of person who does some or all of the following:
Sees food as a source of fuel primarily rather than a source of pleasure
Fully accepts that what happens to their body is a direct reflection of what they put into it and ask of it
Searches for ways to do things that they enjoy, rather than forcing things they don’t like on themselves
Understands that problems that make these things harder, are just that – problems to be overcome, not reasons to stop trying
Searches for solutions rather than noticing problems
And so on.
Initially attempts to ‘be’ that person will be forced.
It won’t feel like the ‘real’ you.
But who we are is malleable and in a constant state of flux.
We change over time anyway, so why not consciously try and change ourselves in a certain way?
Over time these things become second nature.
We ‘become’ that person.
And the ‘Do’ and the ‘Have’ follow with due course.
This doesn’t apply just to weight loss, fitness, toning, etc – it’s all arrears of life where we want to make changes.
It is of course, much harder and more time consuming, initially, then just ‘doing’.
But chances are, if you’re reading this (and not getting the results you want), then ‘just doing’ hasn’t worked for you long term.
Much love,
Jon ‘HDB’ Hall and Matt ‘HLA’ Nicholson
