I mentioned in yesterday’s blog that grumpiness isn’t an inevitability of age.
But is often an accumulation of unmet expectations.
Us expecting behaviour from other people that we haven’t even verbalized let alone got their agreement to.
I appreciate that it’s also, in part, from how easy it is to hear about what’s going ‘wrong’ in the world.
Watch the news and listen to most people and you’ll have a never-ending stream of things that aren’t right.
I’m not saying those things don’t exist.
I’m not naïve.
I appreciate they often need working on and that things aren’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination.
But that side of things is already sewn up.
You will spend the rest of your life hearing that to varying degrees.
I don’t need to give you that.
What I could do though is help you with the opposite to that.
The way of looking at things that relatively few people do.
That we were never taught to do.
That no one will do for us.
I would bet every penny I’ve ever earned that, if you find me a grumpy person……….
They will not have spent the last decade writing down three things that have gone well…….
And one thing that they’re happy about in their life every day.
Because everyone I know who has done that it’s fairly positive.
And relatively happy with their life and the world in general.
Doesn’t mean they’re not aware of the less good sides.
They’ve created a balanced view.
Not just one.
If your mood and how you feel about the world and other people doesn’t average at least a 7 out of 10, I can guarantee doing the following will increase that.
– Every evening write down three things I’ve gone well that day (no matter how small and don’t write off “expected behaviour”)
– Write down one thing you are happy about in your life
– Write down one thing that is good in the world
It’s your call.
I know very few will do anything with this (like very few will do anything with www.myrise.co.uk/apply even though it would change their lives).
Choosing instead (by not choosing) to just have the opposite viewpoints sent their way.
And to massively increase the probability of grumpiness.
Jon ‘1,000 wins a year’ Hall
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