The other day I saw an advert on Facebook about credit and debit card charges.
And how, as a company that takes card payments, we might be paying more than we need to.
I filled in a quick form to see if we were eligible for a cheaper solution.
The next morning my phone was going crazy.
Call after call after call.
Dozens of them.
When I filled in the form it had said that a number of providers would call me.
So I got exactly what I asked for.
But I didn’t answer any of them.
In the same way that people sometimes fill in the form asking me to contact them and then don’t respond to my attempts to contact them.
It’s a powerful realisation that, often the things that annoy the most are the things we haven’t fully accepted in ourselves.
I heard this years ago.
I didn’t accept it.
I thought it was the exact opposite.
The things that annoyed me were the things the other people did that I wouldn’t.
Being late for example.
Now, whilst I would say that I am on time 99% of the time……..
I am occasionally late.
I’d like to think that’s through no fault of my own.
Other people making me late.
But that’s what most late people say.
It would be tempting for me to get annoyed at people who requested that I contact them and then didn’t respond.
But I do the same on occasion.
I’d wager that every single one of us occasionally exhibits the behaviour that annoys us others.
So, what we’re doing, is subconsciously setting some version of that behaviour that isn’t isn’t acceptable.
An imaginary line.
Our version is just on the right side and other people’s is on the wrong side.
We probably haven’t even concretely defined this.
And we definitely haven’t communicated it to other people.
Let alone got there buy-in to it.
None of this means that we have to just accept behaviour in other people that we’re truly not okay with.
But it can help put in context a lot of our daily frustrations.
The next time we find ourselves getting irritated with someone’s behaviour……..
We can ask ourselves if we’ve truly never, ever done something like that.
Realising that what frustrates us the most is what we’ve not accepted in ourselves can free energy, focus and enthusiasm to just work on our own stuff (which we can also help with –> www.myrise.co.uk/apply) .
Much love,
Jon ‘of Duty’ Hall
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RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!
