I mentioned yesterday that I’ve got a story to share with you.
I’m pretty nervous about sharing it to be honest.
It contains an particularly emotive subject.
One that I’d like to clarify that I have personal experience of.
It’s powerful though.
It’s from a talk given at the quarterly meetup for the coaching program that I’m part of.
We met up at The Farm Club at Knutsford a week last Friday.
The nearby location being coincidental as we’ve had them all over the country.
The talk was from a guy I know called Stuart Cain.
Just under two years ago, Stuart and his partner lost a child in the later stages of pregnancy.
Since then, they have set up Ada’s Foundation in her name – “to provide empathetical and practical support to families affected by stillbirth, helping them navigate through the challenges of grief and loss”.
They have a fundraising page at https://adasfoundation.enthuse.com/donate#!/ if you’d like to contribute?
Stuart’s talk was both excellent and deeply moving.
He ran us through what happened and what he’s chosen to make it mean with his actions since.
But there was one sentence that he used that really hit me hard.
He was talking about the value of some of the tools that he’s learned and the support of an accountability group that he’s in.
He pointed a few of them out in the room and thanked them for their support.
And said “If I can message these guys on the day my daughter died with my three biggest wins for the day, then none of you f*ckers have an excuse”.
Which, frankly, hit like a bus to the face.
He expanded that those wins for that day were the fact that he got to hold his daughter, support his partner and use some of the tools he’s learnt over the years to keep himself together.
Because, as he said, there are always wins.
Those wins don’t diminish or negate the less good stuff.
But they’re still there.
Genuinely try writing down three wins a day for the next year and tell me it wasn’t worthwhile.
It starts hard because we don’t think those wins are worthwhile.
But it gets easier and, usually, the wins become greater as we build confidence and momentum.
Much love,
Jon ‘No application link today, but if you feel like clicking a link –> https://adasfoundation.enthuse.com/donate#!/’ Hall
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