A second thing that we might say to ourselves about why we’re not making the progress (in any area) that we’d like to is “I’m just not that kinda person”.
Not the kinda person who enjoys regular exercise, perhaps.
“Not the sort of person who’s going to mediate.”
“I’m just not a good sleeper”
“I like my food too much”
All just labels we put on ourselves.
They may have a foundation in our experiences, sure.
But they’re not hard and fast, indisputable fact.
At RISE, we’ve had countless people join who’ve not enjoyed exercise before then enjoy it when doing it with us.
Have they changed or have they changed the version of something that they’re doing?
Most people I know who say meditation isn’t for them have tried for under 10 minutes total ever.
10 minutes out of however many million they’ve been on this earth.
If our kids said they weren’t the sort of person who’d ever been good at maths but had never actually really tried it, what would we say?
We might never sleep as well as some but that doesn’t mean that stopping doing certain things (caffeine late at night, doom scrolling socials in bed, having light pollution in our room, etc) wouldn’t help our sleep somewhat.
And everyone I’ve ever met likes their food.
Some have just chosen to make different choices that they also like.
The words we use are powerful.
The labels we give ourselves shape our behaviour.
Changing those labels can help change what we do and the results that brings.
It can’t feel ‘false’.
Made up.
It has to, at the very least, show signs of becoming true.
“I prefer exercising when I’ve got someone telling me what to do and it’s made fun” (cough ** RISE ** cough –> www.myrise.co.uk/apply).
“I know meditation isn’t about being instantly budda like, but more a gentle slowing of the mind. And I know that, like anything, I’ll get better at it by doing it”
“I sleep better if I follow a good evening routine that involves XYZ”
“I make some tactical choices about what I eat so that I enjoy it but it also helps my body look and feel how I’d like it to”.
And so on.
If the way you describe yourself makes it so you’re not likely to do the things you kinda want to do…………..
How else could you describe yourself so that it will be more likely?
Much love,
Jon ‘Kinder egg’ Hall
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RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!
