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My wife, step daughter and mother are all big fans of ‘Strictly Come Dancing’.

 

So, although, I don’t particularity ‘watch’ it, I see and hear bits and am kinda aware what’s going on.

 

This year (and several others apparently), in case you didn’t know, one of the pairs were caught kissing.

 

Dancer Katya Jones and celebrity partner and comedian Sean Walsh Google informs me.

 

The issue was that Sean already had a girlfriend.

 

And that Katya is married to one of the dancers on the show.

 

Naughty!

 

They both apologised for what they did after and said they regretted it.

 

That they’d made a mistake.

 

It’s a ‘mistake’ I’ll never make.

 

I know that I’ll never cheat on my wife.

 

The marriage may end and we’ll move on.

 

Hopefully not and I don’t think it will.

 

But nothing will ever happen while we are still ‘together’.

 

Didn’t in our first marriages until they were well and truly over.

 

It’s a hard a fast rule for me.

 

No flexibility.

 

No “I might cheat, but will try not to”.

 

Or “I hope I don’t end up cheating”

 

Or “I’ll only cheat a little”.

 

Hard and fast rules can work well for us.

 

We can chose not to eat certain foods and never eat them again.

 

Vegetarians for example.

 

But………..

 

If those hard and fast, all or nothing, rules mean that we eventually ‘break’ and do it…………..

 

And maybe then ‘do it loads’ as we’ve ‘failed’…………

 

‘Writing it off’………………

 

Then it’s, perhaps, not the best approach for us.

 

I talked about those ‘shades of grey’ yesterday.

 

And that works in many areas of life.

 

We have the the ‘white’ ideal………….

 

But, if that doesn’t happen, we’re better going for a ‘grey’ than all the way to ‘black’.

 

But black or white can work, depending on what it is and how we feel about it.

 

No right or wrong.

 

Setting a goal and phrasing it in a way that works for you and serves you best is the key!

 

Much love,

 

Jon ‘on Du’ Hall and Matt ‘from Grimsby’ Nicholson

 

P.S. Speaking of cheating, tomorrow I’ll cover ‘cheat meals’.

 

P.P.S. myrise.co.uk/briefing-meeting to find out more innit 😉

 

 

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Jon Hall
Jon Hall

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