Imagine you decided to go speed dating.
One by one everyone present filed past you, took one quick look and said either yes or no and moved on.
Even if we got 50% “Yes”es (which, let’s face it, is optimistic) that could be dozens or more people looking at you saying “No” and moving on.
How would that feel?
Pretty soul crushing I should imagine.
Now imagine going on a dating app such as Tinder.
You upload your picture, and after a few days see that a number of people have swiped right for you (I had to Google to see which direction was a “Yes”, honest Alex).
Which feels pretty good.
Deep down though, we know that for every “Yes” received, there have been several or dozens of “No’s”.
Maybe hundreds in total.
But it’s that little bit ‘removed’, isn’t it?
Dozens of perceived failures to our face are hard.
Dozens of perceived failures hidden away is much easier.
But the result is still the same either way.
Hiding things not happening doesn’t stop them not happening.
Like not setting plans and intents for our days and weeks.
We bowl into the week saying “I know what I need to do, I just need to do it”………
Then it not happening doesn’t feel all that bad.
If we set a specific intent for how many workouts we’re going to do and when and how we’re going to eat…….
Then it not happening is the same result as if we didn’t set that intent.
But it feels worse doesn’t it?
Setting specific plans and being held accountable to them is a brave choice.
It means we might actually have to see when we haven’t done what we said we’d do.
But having a plan also makes it less likely we’ll miss it.
Deciding exactly what we’re going to do, thinking about what might get in the way and getting anyone else involved on board means we’re more likely to do those things than if we just try and “fit it in”.
Much like dating apps like Tinder don’t really stop us getting rejected, they just hide it more………
Not making a plan doesn’t prevent us missing what we wanted to do.
It just hides it!
Much love,
Jon ‘dy boo’ Hall
P.S. Helping members make regular plans – then holding them accountable to those plans – is a big part of what we do. If being accountable only to yourself hasn’t quite done the job… www.myrise.co.uk/apply
