In yesterday’s blog I talked about “time wasters”.
And I mentioned that no one sets out to waste our time.
It might feel like that sometimes, sure.
But I’ve never set out to waste somebody else’s time and I’m pretty sure no one is actually doing that to me.
Even if my time does then get wasted.
I’d say it’s a daily occurrence that someone doesn’t do the thing that they essentially promised me that they would.
Whether that’s replying to a message, answering an arranged phone call, turning up to do a paid job, sending me over the screen grabs of their food diary or some other activity.
Numerous times per year people disappear whilst owing the business, and therefore me, money.
All things, that I would like to think that I would never do.
But there’s a few powerful things to remember.
1. Expecting us from others is the quickest way to be disappointed
2. We don’t always meet the standards that we’d like to think we do
3. Our level and version of not meeting those standards are different and we have our justifications for it but so does everyone else
4. People are never doing this “to us”, they’re doing it “for them”
5. Everyone’s doing their best with what they’ve got
6. People do do what they said they would and things go fine the overwhelming majority of the time but this is less noticeable
None of this means that we have to just accept and get on with things that really aren’t ok.
But reframing how we see a lot of our experiences can make living a much less frustrating experience (apply now for our four week trial at www.myrise.co.uk/apply if you’d like to change what you can and become more ok with what you can’t – a powerful combo!).
Jon ‘and practices’ Hall
RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!