Yesterday, a long-term member told me I’d annoyed her.
She’d started looking at the trainings at www.myrise.co.uk/time and found it frustrating at first
Not exactly the goal.
But if 24 years in this game has taught me anything…….
Smiling, nodding and agreeing with everything doesn’t help people change
Most people say they want accountability.
And accountability is often annoying.
But there was a particular phrase that jumped out in our conversation.
“He doesn’t know anything about my life”.
And I get that.
I’ve felt the same about coaches I’ve worked with and content I’ve seen online.
And they’re right – I don’t know everything about their life
So instead, I try to do two things:
1. Don’t just give people a standard list of things to do that they’ve probably had before.
Work with them to find something that actually fits their life.
2. Give people tools they can use, whatever they’ve got going on.
Anyone can take a log of how they use their time.
We can all look at what’s in that log and decide what to stop, do less of, or do differently.
Same with food – track it, then adjust from there.
Maybe turns out that they are currently using their time as efficiently and effectively as possible and no changes can be made.
I’ve yet to see that in anyone that’s done it.
But it is, of course, possible.
So, if what I say annoys you sometimes, I get that.
It’s because I want to help.
It’s just asking better questions.
Different questions lead to different outcomes.
Much love,
Jon ‘360’ Hall
P.S. If you want help with this, you can try it here – www.myrise.co.uk/apply
