I read a super interesting book last year.
“The Psychopath: A True Story”
By a lady who discovered that her husband, and father of her children, had another wife and several other children elsewhere.
And that the vast majority of what he told her during their relationship had been a pack of lies.
And, on doing further research into the subject, she’d come to the realisation that he was a psychopath.
Not in the conventional axe wielding murderer movie version of the word.
But fitting the description of “persistent antisocial behaviour, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, and egotistical traits”.
And the differentiator between psychopath and sociopath being that you are born with the former and develop the latter.
The whole book was super interesting.
If you were to hear a brief summary of the lies that he told, it might be easy to question her intelligence for falling for them.
But when you read the whole story you realised how easy it would have been.
How, despite her occasional concerns, he was always able to present very plausible answers.
And, on occasion, he even seemed to do things that proved his stories beyond any shadow of a doubt.
A situation she’s never been able to explain.
One thing that I found really interesting was how psychopaths get so good at lying.
It’s practise.
By having little to no empathy or remorse and not caring about how many people see them, they are able to refine their ability at lying very quickly.
Imagine if you went to nightclubs every single night and propositioned every single person that you liked the look of there.
Most of us would be put off by all the “No”s, the rejections and the bad experiences.
A psychopath would keep doing it again and again and again and again until they got really good at it.
Happily going through 999 “No”s to get to the one “Yes”.
Now I am, of course, not suggesting that we actually become psychopaths.
Or even sociopaths.
But could we learn something from this approach?
Psychopaths don’t have a different relationship with success to us……..
They have a different relationship with “failure”.
And, like all relationships, our relationship with failure can be changed.
We can choose to see it as a necessary part of success.
As opportunities to learn.
Maybe just as something we have to go through in order to get to the successes.
The most successful people that I know have actually failed more than anyone I know.
They just get through those failures to get to the successes.
The more willing we are to fail with our workouts, our attempts to change our food, things we do at work and anything else………
The more those successes will come.
What we can learn from psychopaths is that……..
More success in life comes from………
Changing our relationship with failure (and the most success you’ll get with changing your body, mood and energy levels will come by applying here, guaranteed –> www.myrise.co.uk/apply) .
Much love,
Jon ‘Sycho Sid’ Hall
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