Whilst we’re on the subject of confidence (yesterday’s blog), another powerful realisation we can make is what type of emotion it is.
It’s an ‘after emotion’.
Much like motivation comes much more readily from the doing than from waiting………..
So does confidence.
We get the equation the wrong way around though sometimes, don’t we?
We want the confidence to be able to do something.
But it’s the doing something that will give us the confidence.
It’s the trying something we’re not 100% sure how it’ll go………..
Knowing that there is no certainty and that, no matter how it goes, we’ll be ok…………
Learning from the less good bits…………
And slowly getting better over time.
It can be a simple switch.
Just a change of wording.
“I need to be more confident to speak at work” –> “I need to speak at work to be more confident”
“I need to be more confident to ask that person out” –> “I need to ask that person out to to be more confident”
“I need to be more confident to have that awkward conversation” –> “I need to have that awkward conversation to be more confident”
“I need to be more confident to join RISE” –> “I need to join RISE (via www.myrise.co.uk/apply) to be more confident”
Confidence (and motivation) aren’t like buses.
We can’t sit waiting for them and they’ll turn up at some point.
They are both after emotions.
Flipping that ‘equation’ is the only way we’ll get them.
Much love,
Jon ‘Equatorial Guinea’ Hall
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