Have you ever thought any of the following;
“S/he should be more supportive”?
“They shouldn’t be so loud”?
“Some people are so negative”?
More or less honest, reliable, punctual, selfish, gossipy, talkative or any other behaviour description we could choose?
In general, felt others should behave differently to how they are?
I’m sure we all have.
I know I have.
But it’s powerful to realise that, in those situations, we’re wanting to control someone else’s behaviour.
When, let’s be honest, we don’t have full control over our own.
We don’t always behave in line with our expectations of ourselves.
So expecting other people to behave in line with those expectations, when they’ve not agreed to it, is optimistic at best.
It’s incredibly freeing to realise that other people’s behaviour is their thing.
It’s nothing to do with us.
That doesn’t mean we have to allow people to mistreat us, of course.
We can still deal with things that are not ok.
But taking these things less personally and just rolling with what we can’t………
Can reduce much of our frustration………
And free up mental space and enthusiasm for changing what we can (want a programme that’ll change your life and body and that you’ll be enthusiastic about rather than it feeling like a constant slog? It’s here —> www.myrise.co.uk/apply) .
Much love,
Jon ‘Center 4’ Hall
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RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!
