I went to London the other week.
Saw my old Uni mates for the first time since just before COVID.
On a side note it turns out Dan’s 40th (last time I saw them) was something of a super-spreader event (well, moderate-spreader).
I got the cheapest train down which got me in about an hour before any of them would join me.
No biggie – I’d just do a bit of work in the pub until they arrived.
When I got to pub, I scanned around to see which tables had plug sockets near them.
I couldn’t see any.
So, whilst ordering a drink, I asked the barman.
“We’re a digital detox pub” he began, pointing to a sign which explained;
“Use of mobiles, laptops and other digital devices is NOT ALLOWED……. Beer and conversation encouraged”.
“Take some time off screens and enjoy” he concluded as he passed me my drink.
I quite liked that.
I had a book in my bag so just read that for the next hour.
Didn’t look at my phone once.
Not long after I arrived that barman went for a break and another took over.
His explanation when people asked if they could charge their phones was different.
“We’re really anti-mobile phones, it’s just a thing we’ve got.”
“You can’t use them in here.”
No referencing the sign.
Which came across less well.
Most people who he said that to looked a little put out.
Had one drink and moved on.
Same thing.
Different phraseology.
Different feelings about it.
Like often happens in life.
The words we use are powerful.
They drive our thoughts, feelings and actions.
And the results they bring and the habits they create.
It’s tempting to think the language we use will change as we change.
But we can change the language first to help drive change in us.
It can’t feel made up and fake.
But different words can change how we feel and think about the situation and what then follows.
“I’m on a diet” or “I’m cutting out carbs” can just as easily become “I’m just paying attention to what I’m eating because of how it makes me look and feel”.
“I really should do some exercise this week” can be “I choose to exercise as it makes me feel better – when can I do this week?”
“I really shouldn’t” can become “I’m good, thanks”.
“Counting calories” can change to “tracking my food to help me make better choices”.
“I’ve been naughty” or “I’ve failed and I’ll start again next week” changes to “I ate a bit more than I needed there, I’ll just reduced elsewhere to average out”.
All the same thing.
In all cases, I’m sure you agreed, the latter version sounds more appealing and is more likely to happen (and, if you want an overall approach that’s “more appealing and is more likely to happen” than going to the gym and dieting, then that’s what we do –> www.myrise.co.uk/apply to take the next step with that (with a money back guarantee).
Much love,
Jon ‘I might cover the ‘standard detox’ tomorrow’ Hall
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