I mentioned in Wednesday’s blog that I organise the social events for the Dads in my youngest son’s school year.
We’ve had five so far with attendances of 19, 8, 21, 5 and 6 respectively.
I also organise the social events for RISE.
Where we’ve had several events with attendances over 100.
The most we’ve had in person has been 164 and online with 224.
I also recently organised a school reunion that about 40 attended.
And the other day the wife and I had a house party for 30 or so of us to mark 10 years of us living in Macclesfield and we’ve got stuff booked in with friends and family for most of the weekends for the rest of the year.
And this all spawned from a conversation I had with my Auntie Pam maybe 15 years ago.
She’s not my Auntie really – she’s my mum’s best mate from College and my Godmother.
I was expressing frustration at the fact that I always seemed to make more effort with most of my friends than they made with me.
And she replied with “I’ve always felt that way. But then so has pretty much everyone else I’ve ever spoken to about it”.
And it dawned on me.
None of my friends didn’t want to see me.
They were always happy when we got together.
It just takes someone to be willing to do the organising.
So, since then I happily organise more social activities that other people organise for me.
And every single time, people are appreciative of it.
People like to get together, they perhaps just don’t always get round to doing the organising for that themselves as much as they could.
And are glad when someone else does.
It’s a game changer when we stop getting hung up on what we think other people “ought to”, “should” or “need to” do.
And just get on with doing our own thing with a view to getting the results that we desire.
I also stopped worrying about what people would think about me making more effort to organise socials.
They don’t need to come if they don’t want to (or can’t).
They can just tell me that.
Which is why I keep asking (members particularly) over and over and over again if they’re coming to a social until I get an answer one way or another.
And it turns out that what most people think about that is “It’s great that Jon keeps chasing me up as I haven’t gotten around to checking my diary” not “I wish Jon would stop hassling me”.
When we accept the other people won’t always do what we would like them to do, stop worrying about what other people will think about what we’re doing and just get on with doing the thing that takes it in the direction that we want to take him……….
The game changes (as it will for you if you click this link —> www.myrise.co.uk/apply) .
Much love,
Jon ‘& Tommy’ Hall
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RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!
