You want a sure fire way to make sure you’re not happy?
I know you won’t.
But there’s a chance you are, or have been, doing this.
It’s a single phrase you can use.
“I’ll be happy when…….”
You know;
“I’ll be happy when………….
I’ve finished this project / course / qualification……
I’ve got XYZ job……
I’ve got a partner / got married / had kids / the kids are a bit older / the kids have left home / we’re divorced……
I’ve got less on……
I’ve lost that weight……
That problem has cleared up……
And so on!
I’m sure you know from experience that when we defer happiness until a specific thing has happened………..
That thing happens………..
And we rarely feel any different after a period of initial satisfaction.
So we set a new “I’ll be happy when………..”
Now, of course, those things are things we might want to change / complete / finish.
But, if we’re being 100% honest, they weren’t the entirety of the reason we weren’t happy, were they?
There would have been people in the world in the same situation who were happy at that time.
To a large degree, happiness is a choice.
Not an easy choice, sure.
But a choice nonetheless.
When we tell ourselves it isn’t, we take ourselves out of a position of power.
Make ourselves victims of our circumstances.
When we defer happiness until some future date or situation…………
We’ll probably never be happy.
And tomorrow I’m going to cover a big shift in the way we see things that can help us with that choice of happiness right now (although you don’t need wait till tomorrow to take the best step you’ll ever take to feeling happier with your body, energy levels and mood –> www.myrise.co.uk/apply) .
Much love,
Jon ‘Pharrell Williams’ Hall
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RISE in Macclesfield was established in 2012 and specialise in Group Personal Training weight loss programmes for those that don’t like the gym and find diets boring and restrictive!
