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Any of you that have ever been to the kids’ music class Rythym Time will know how this goes.
Sang by the teacher as she (or he, of course) goes round with a box the children tap on.
What’s in the music box today?
Let’s have a look and then we’ll play.
Will it be big or will it be small?
There might be nothing there at all.
I’ve been going to Rhythm Time for years with various kids (or mine, of course).
—————- If you read this when it comes out, I’ll be just getting home from taking Charlie to the Wednesday morning session —————
And do you know how many times the box has been empty?
None.
There’s always something there.
Something small (enough to fit in the box).
I wonder how the kids would react if it was empty one day?
They clearly don’t expect it will be.
And why would they?
Even though the words say one thing, the actions consistently do something else.
And that’s what we remember.
It’s the same with how we deal with flabotagers.
You know, the people who offer us cake and biscuits at work.
Extra courses, sides and more alcohol on nights out.
Take out, ice cream and the like at home.
And don’t take know for an answer.
“Stop being boring” they might say if you say “No” to start with.
And similar, usually progressively more annoyed, things until you say “Yes”.
By saying “No” until we say “Yes” we’re teaching them to keep asking.
Despite what we’re saying, they’re basing their response off our previous actions.
We ‘enable’ that behaviour with our actions.
So, what’s the answer.
Make a decision and stick to it.
If it’s a “Yes” just say that straight away.
If it’s a “No” then say that and stick with it.
How many more times they ask will decrease each time to just the once.
If they know that “No means no” then they won’t keep asking as it’ll just make them feel bad.
We’re not, of course, saying you even have to say “No”.
Your life, eat (and drink) what you like.
But we you find ourselves getting flabotaged by people who won’t take our first answer…………
We need to remember that it’s our actions, not our words, that are teaching them how to respond.
And ‘act’ accordingly.
Much love,
Jon ‘Put it in the box. 1 2 3’ Hall and Matt ‘Arabella, Arabella, where are you?’ Nicholson
