Imagine you’re at a Dinner Party.
You look down at the cutlery.
You’ve got your standard knife and fork.
Clearly for main.
Another, smaller knive and fork either side.
For the starter no doubt!
A spoon across the top.
Pudding I should imagine.
But, hang on, what’s this?
And extra, slightly odd shaped fork.
Another little spoon.
And I don’t even know what to call that.
And why’s that one at a funny angle?
What do you do?
I would imagine you, surreptitiously, watch the person next to you.
Copy what they do.
It’s human nature to copy the others around us.
Especially when we are unsure about what to do.
And that process has served us very well over our time on this planet.
But it can also do us a disservice.
All the research shows us that, more than we would imagine or care to admit, our behaviour is guided, in a large part, by what those we spend the most time with do.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
If everyone around you doesn’t eat healthily and doesn’t exercise……….
It’s very easy to slip into an ‘average’ of that.
People around you do and you probably will.
This doesn’t mean we have to remove people from our lives.
Although, sometimes, sadly, this may be the answer.
But we can just adjust how much time, energy and focus some people get.
A bit less on those that take is in the direction we don’t want to go.
And / or a bit more on those that take us in the direction we do want to be taking.
It’s one of the reason our ‘group’ programme gets way better results than most considerably more expensive 1:1 coaches.
All of a sudden, people are surrounded by people who are exercising regularly and eating well.
Who are facing the same challenges in life as they are, but finding ways to work round them and make forward progress.
That group dynamic which people get swept along in is probably our most powerful feature ( check myrise.co.uk/briefing-meeting if you like the sound of that).
So, have a look at those 5 people.
If that average isn’t where you want to be, you’ve got three options;
1. Spend less time / energy / focus on those that take you in the wrong direction
2. Spend more time / energy / focus on those that take you in the right direction
3. Some mixture of the above
Much love,
Jon ‘Spork’ Hall and Matt ‘And Spindy’ Nicholson
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