Every quarter I go to a 'meet up' as part of the coaching programme that I'm part of (you know the score, beware the coach that doesn't have a coach).


The last one was at Man City's stadium.


In a month. I'm walking up Pen y Fan in Wales with them (supposedly in Special Forces selection process conditions and time).


One of the things we normally start with at Quarterlies is listing our "wins" for the last three months.


Before looking at what went less well and what we can learn from that.


We get a solid 10 or 15 minutes to list everything.


And do you know what always happens?


For the wins, it's slow going to start.


Especially for the newer guys.


They'll list a couple of things and stop.


Then, after some encouragement to refer back through their planner and check photos on their phone, they'll put some more.


And it keeps going.


After a slow start, we all end up with pages of things that went as planned or better.


For the things that went less well, it's the opposite.


Pen flies to paper to start as our brain is quick to remind us of the things we didn't do or that went wrong.


But we run out of steam.


And don't end up with all that many.


There's always, always, always way more things that went well than things that didn't.


For every single person there.


Even if that's not what they'd have expected before.


And do you know why they don't expect it?


Why you're thinking that wouldn't be the case for you right now?


The human brain is really good at reminding us of what we perceive to be less than it should be.


And equally good (if not considerably better) at instantly forgetting the stuff that goes fine and as planned.


Writing it off as "expected behaviour" and quickly moving on.


Most things we set out to do go fine.


We get up, get changed, get the kids sorted, do most of our work as planned, do house stuff and much more exactly as we intended to.


Forgetting it instantly.


Remembering the few things that weren't quite perfect.


Ruminating on them.


Letting them spin through our minds.


We practice ourselves progressively better at noticing the less good and instantly forgetting the good as the years roll by.


And if that doesn't make it harder to be happy, I don't know what will.


So, what's the answer?


I'll give it you now, but I can guarantee most of you won't do anything with it (or, at least, not for long enough for it to help).


Every person I've ever seen do this for a sustained period of time has felt better about their lives and used it to build confidence and momentum for adjusting where things aren't quite as we'd like them to be.


Practice back the opposite way.


Every night, write down your three biggest wins.


No matter how small you think they are.


Write them down.


Literally.


On paper.


Do more if you like.


But definitely three.


And watch the size of those wins grow.


After a year, you'll have a thousand wins to look back on.


And, I guarantee, you'll feel much happier.




Much love,


Jon 'In pursuit of' Hall

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Jon Hall
Jon Hall

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